There's something else that annoys me about online dating sites. Both Yahoo Personals and Match.com have a feature that will let you see your mutual matches. They show you profiles, not only of women who match what you're looking for, but these are supposed to be women who are looking for you. The trouble is, it's not perfect.

For instance, on Match.com, like all others, you can select different traits you're looking for in a match. They even let you rate the importance of that choice - Not Very, Somewhat, Absolutely. So, for the following choices - "non-smoker," "Never Married," Widowed," or "Divorced" - I selected Absolutely. And yet, when I select "Mutual Matches" they show me women who either smoke occasionally or are trying to quit, and a few women who are currently separated.

And, on Yahoo Personals, some of my so-called matches aren't looking for anyone like me. Some are looking for men who are 6'0" are taller - I'm only 5'10". And, others are looking for African-American men - I'm about as white as they come.